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Why do we get stress?

Four in every ten people we meet in this world are expected to be stressed. Many times we don’t realize that one of our dear one is in that four too. Think about ten people you met today, can you name the ones you suspect to be stressed? Maybe not, as most of us had mastered the art of masking the stress and projecting a sparkling version of ourselves to the outside world. Reality is that there is nothing to be ashamed of being stressed instead we need to cultivate a society where it is spoken out loud and we look after each other to ensure stress gets the treatment it deserves by getting it busted! 


We are always in look out for stress busters and keen to adapt famous methods around us. But why do we get stressed? For every individual it is different, as unique as we are with our dna, the types and variety of stress inducers are also different. Many of us are stressed because of our job commitments or rather expectations. Many times we set these expectations unknowingly, by overcommitting, underestimating or even overlooking our lack of competence. Most other times it is just the sheer volume of work too. Eisenhower’s principle of classifying urgent and important work would help out to organise our work and mind. Without learning the art of saying a “No” where it is required, no principle or theory could come handy. 

We cannot classify workplace as one dimensional but definitely overworking team members are often an outcome of poor planning or lack of competence. In industries where time is money and often quoted cheaper to win business, the stress building directly relates to understaffing. Either ways the management keeps the eye shut as long as there is a highly flexible and hardworking team. Remember nobody can give us stress but only we can create it within us. 

Another common pressure contributor is competition. Be it the marketplace or peer pressure, the competition does take a toll on our mental and physical health. Think of all of those competition you had in school and universities with your peer groups, when you look back you realize it doesn’t matter anymore. What matters is how you feel and whether you are happy to keep yourself stressed. Nothing equals mental peace and happiness, embrace it at every opportunity. Only take the stress that can motivate you and push you to succeed the way you want to. The moment it is not helping you to become what you want to become but feeding you to become a lower version of yourself, it is time to throw it away. 

You can be what you want to be only when that stress monster is off your mind and body.

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  1. That's true.. about selective stress taking.. at the same time, it does help if one could just focus on the task and perform it to the best without thinking of results.. easy to say, hard to do.

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